A huge area of concern for parents around the globe is reports declaring that Autism diagnosis numbers are on the rise…some in fact, are saying that the numbers are doubling. I read a recent article here: http://bit.ly/I5rII . This increase in numbers is frightening for those who are of childbearing years. Baby boys are four times more likely to be diagnosed as being autistic as baby girls are; is that for real? What is causing our children to be born with this condition? Is it the environment, diets, or genetic disposition? Is this an epidemic, or are our fears and faulty diagnoses at the core of the problem?
Frankly, if your child is one who is affected by an Autism diagnosis or label…it really doesn’t matter. The fact is that your child is facing some serious issues both socially, emotionally, and physically. What is desperately needed is some answers; and the only way to get those answers is through research. Funding is a big part of the research solution. Learn more about Autism and it’s research issues here: http://www.autism.com/ . If we all work together…we can improve the lives of families around the world who struggle with the effects of Autism.
When you first become a parent you think that love will conquer all things that get in your way while you parent your child. However, there are somethings that can’t be conquered. You can’t undiagnose a child who has been labeled special needs; and you can’t be the biological parent of a child that you didn’t give birth to. As a parent, your greatest tool is love…but love isn’t enough to make bad situations go away.
However, you can find ways to improve aspects of the quality of your children’s lives; and yours, as the parent of a special needs child or the parent of an adopted child. No matter what the situation, or what the diagnosis is…it doesn’t change the fact that you love your child.
Disppointment is a real life shadow when experiencing obstacles raising children with challenges. It can’t be avoided. But love isn’t enough to change limitations imposed by a specific diagnosis…but, love is enough to find ways to still enable as much independence as possible. When love isn’t enough to fill up the empty spots left by the void of a biological parent in their lives…it is enough to show compassion and empathy to help them understand that the empty spots don’t have to lead to destructive behaviors.
The truth be told; special needs children and adopted children need a strong advocate in life, in school, and in medical settings. No one knows your child better than you, the parent, and no one will fight harder for them; to get the things that they need, when they need it. Parents are on the front lines of battle for their child.
When love isn’t enough to magically make everything perfect and ok…it is enough to give you the courage and strength to face the challenges before you and your child; and to find ways to be successful and achieve the milestones in life, that you know your child will benefit from. Love is enough to provide acceptance and encouragement to be growing as a person to be the best person that they can be.