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Various Written Perspectives On Raising Special Needs Children

By Rainy on October 13th, 2008

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        I have been reading a book called, Love You To Pieces.  It is a collection of written pieces on raising special needs children; some pieces are true and some are fiction.  It is a book rooted in real life challenges facing parents of special needs children.  It is not a Hallmark moment kind of book filled with false illusions of perfection. 

         Every family that faces issues in raising special needs children finds themselves learning how to do it in a way that is workable for their particular family.  No one can go to a doctor or a website and find a perfect way of coping that is workable for each and every person in that situation.  There is often no right way to do it.  Many times in raising our children we have to learn as we go.  Sometimes what worked the day before no longer works and we must adjust our technique.

         This book showcases the emotional and the practical side of parenting challenged children.  It is real and gut wrenching and truthful.  The physical difficulties that parents face as their special needs child grows and their abilities do not.  The doctor appointments that reveal multiple challenges that were unexpected.  The public perceptions that both hinder and inspire progress.  Siblings that are supportive and friends and relatives that are not.  Relationships that support each other and relationships that flounder under the strain.  Moments of denial and acceptance.   Judgements and advice by people who have no real idea of what it takes to raise a special needs child successfully.   Parenting is a strange mixture of courage and fear…searching for answers that we are sometimes unwilling to accept.  These are issues that we all find ourselves in when parenting special needs children.

           Often times, parents of special needs children feel isolated.  It is a fine balance of looking for opportunities to socialize and educate our children in environments that will impose no further harm or damage upon our children.  This book is a validation of so many issues, that we face, that it is somewhat comforting to know that we are not alone in our struggles.  It is a book worth reading.  It was written by Suzanne Kamata who is a fiction writer for an online magazine, Literary Mama.  The publisher is Beacon Press; their website is: and the book was copyrighted in 2008

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